Today is the 2nd anniversary of the death of Shannon's parents. A friend of Shannon's, who herself lost her young child in a car accident, said you never get over it. Loss of a child is far worse than losing your middle aged parents, but the truth is deaths of close family members are ones we never get over. That is such a fallacy of grieving. That it is a period of your life for you to "get over" a death whatever that means. How do you get over losing 2 of the people that mean the absolute most to you. No, grieving is about integrating a terrible loss into your life the best you can so that you can keep on living. For some, it does not take long. For others, it takes much longer. For all of us, there is still pain, no matter the years in between, at the thought of their loss. We don't get over it, but we do go through it. This is a hard week for Shannon, but it is part of grieving. I can tell she is doing "better" than last year as God continues to minister to her, and she continues to put this loss into her life and keep living. Here are some things I wrote about Mom and Dad, their death and us living with that. We love them and remember them, always.
http://kylemeadors.com/2007/06/20/gary-and-joyce-varden-may-126-1950-june-11-2006/
http://kylemeadors.com/2007/12/11/verdict-in-trial-for-person-who-killed-shannons-parents/
http://kylemeadors.com/2007/12/12/reflections-on-the-verdict/
praying for you
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